Interior Beauty

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty fleeting; the woman who fears the Lord is to be praised."
~Proverbs 31:30~


Are you beautiful on the inside?? When God made us, he said we were very good, and we are. However, he also gave us free will to be or not to be beautiful on the inside. So often we miss this type of beauty and only see the outer appearance of people. What is inner beauty anyway???

One of the first aspects of inner beauty we see in others is their smile and conversation. If getting a smile from someone makes you feel loved, why aren't you giving one to everyone you meet? Smiles, as well as all your facial expressions, tell others a lot about yourself. Of course if your having a bad day, no one expects you to smile, but every other day, you should be smiling because God made you and loves you and wants to be with you forever! We have every reason in the world to smile. =) Not to mention people are definitely drawn to happy people. In addition to smiles, caring words like "how are you?" and "how was your day" can really impact others. But you have to really mean it when you say it and actually listen to their answer. Sincere loving words change others and point them to Christ whether they know it or not.

Loving deeds are the most significant sign of beauty. It makes people stop and say "wow, I wish I were like that." How often do you do kind deeds?? Beauty comes from love. It may just be helping someone with homework, sharing a piece of candy, holding the door, or saving a seat for someone, but everything we do for others we are doing for Christ Himself. Is that not awesome!! However, when we perform acts of kindness, we can't expect anything in return; otherwise, we are not truly doing it in love. "They made me see that the world was beautiful if you were beautiful, and that you couldn't get unless you gave. And you had to give without wanting to get." (488, The Once and Future King) True acts of kindness are a small reflection of God Himself who is love and has perfect beauty.

I have one last question. How often do we tell other people that they are beautiful? Every girl longs to know she is beautiful. People who think that they are ugly feel horrible. They feel like trash. They try everything they can to change the way they look. Encouraging others and reminding others of their beauty is so important. For a long time, I did not believe that I was beautiful. I was always comparing myself with other girls’ outer appearances and thinking to myself "she is so much prettier than I am. I have thick, curly red hair and acne. How could anyone think that I am beautiful?" Last summer, a guy told me I was beautiful, not because he liked me or anything, but as a friend. I cried afterwards for so long and I felt so different. He told me I was amazing and beautiful. No guy had ever said that to me before. I didn’t just know it anymore, I believed it. After that, I didn’t compare myself with other girls anymore. Tell someone they are beautiful. You may just change their world. The awesome part is that by doing so you are showing your inner beauty as well.

Beauty of the heart is demonstrated in many ways: smiles, kind words, charitable deeds, and encouragement toward others. At the end of the day, when you say your prayers, take a moment to reflect on the beauty you saw during the day and thank your lover for his gift to you. Take a moment to reflect on your actions and words. Were they beautiful? Did you do something kind for someone today? Did you say something loving to someone? The more we become beautiful on the inside, the more we shine on the outside.

© Teresa Mattingly. All Rights Reserved.

Models of Modesty

Since most celebrities today have lost their sense of modesty, who can we look up to? There are so few women out there who have the courage to keep their dignity with all the pressure the world puts on us today. Two singers whom I really admire are Francesca Battistelli and Britt Nicole. Both singers are young, stylish, and modest. I love their outfits!!:) A Christian actress whom I look up to is Erin Bethea. Playing roles in Fireproof, Letters to God, Facing the Giants, and On Mission Xtra, she radiates pure beauty. Most actresses just put on whatever they’re told to wear and don’t even think about modesty, but Erin keeps her dignity despite what others think of her. Following these examples of modesty, we can show the world what true beauty really is.

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Swimming with Modesty

Are you looking for a cute, modest bathing suit? divinemodestee.com has several different really cute tankinis. Plus you get to design it yourself. This was my favorite website for swimwear, and I actually just bought a turquoise halter top tankini from this website. Another website with some cute swimsuits is limericki.com. reyswimwear.com and shadeclothing.com have some nice swimsuits too. All my life, my family has had the rule of wearing swim-shorts with our bathing suits. I've had plenty of people ask me why I was wearing shorts which sometimes made me wish we didn't have this rule. But now, I don't feel properly clothed unless I'm wearing swim shorts, and I take pride in the fact that I am dressing with modesty. It isn't that hard to find cute swim-shorts or a swimming skirt, and it is a lot more comfortable too. Killerdana.com, Swimoutlet.com, and 6pm.com have a large variety of nice swim-shorts. I've also found that many sports shorts work well for swimming also. Have an awesome summer!

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Modest and Beautiful?

"Modesty is important because it is the fort that protects the castle, but it is also the frame that enhances the picture." You may not have known this, but clothing speaks a lot about us. What we wear will either reinforce or change other’s ideas about us. What image of ourselves are we portraying? What image do we want to portray? The purpose of being modest, the history of clothing, and knowing how to be modest are three topics that need to be looked into.

Why should we be modest? My sister once said “Every girl wants a guy to view her as a person, not an object, someone to be treasured, not toyed with.” You are a child of God, the King of all Kings. That makes you a princess. You deserve respect. Our bodies are beautiful and holy because we are temples of the Holy Spirit. “ The good of our soul is more important than that of our body; and we have to prefer the spiritual welfare of our neighbor to our bodily comforts…If a certain kind of dress constitutes a grave and proximate occasion of sin, and endangers the salvation of your soul and others, it is your duty to give it up…”(Hammond, 65). It is extremely important to note that guys are stimulated by sight while girls are stimulated by touch, physically and emotionally. Our goal, which is to get everyone to heaven, is aided by dressing modestly. On the other hand, immodesty produces a near occasion of sin. These reasons to be modest show us that we have dignity, and we need to learn to look beyond our own needs and wants.

Clothing didn’t really change at all for a long time, but when it did, that change was drastic. “Women wore loose, flowing, feminine gowns that reached the floor, usually with long sleeves and some sort of head covering or hair ornament” (Hammond, 43). Before original sin, Adam and Eve were pure and innocent, and they loved and respected each other. Because of original sin, they were tempted by the world, and the cravings of their bodies, and the devil. God dressed them properly, and people wore long tunics after that. In the 1920s clothing totally changed. Skirts became knee-length, shirts were sleeveless and overall, the clothes had a boyish look. Coco Chanel was responsible for a lot of the new clothing changes. She introduced pants, bathing suits, and a lot of other things. Later on she introduced bikinis in 1946. Most people were appalled at these new clothing ideas, and she ended up spending 15 years in Switzerland in exile. When Coco returned in 1954 her popularity rose. In the 1960s and ‘70s, skirts shot way up, and wearing pants became normal. The 1980s continued to be more casual and were all about huge shoulder pads, huge earrings, and huge hairstyles. The 1990s were casual in a new way; some called it sloppy, but others just called it business casual. Clearly, fashions have changed greatly during a short period of time.

You can be fashionable and still have a modest style. Here are some clothing suggestions. Shirts shouldn’t show the stomach, cleavage, or be see-through. Cami’s are a quick fix for low-cut and see-through shirts. Jeans are really tough. When you sit down, nothing should not be showing and try to get jeans that don’t grip your body, or have rips on the top half of the jeans. A good length for skirts and dresses is to the knees. Just because you are swimming, it does not mean its OK to be immodest. The same rules for shirts can be used for bathing suits. Many stores sell cute swimming shorts that you can wear over your bathing suit. Tops of bathing suits that are low-cut can usually be fixed by a little sewing. These are just some of my suggestions, but you should talk to your parents and other adults who are strong in their faith. Being fashionable and modest is definitely possible, but it does take effort.

The purpose of being modest, the history of clothing, and knowing how to be modest give us a clear image of the virtue of modesty. God truly made us beautiful and our beauty is best seen by dressing modestly. We do not simply want to show others our outer beauty, but we want to show them our inner beauty. Modesty and beauty really do go hand in hand.

© Teresa Mattingly. All Rights Reserved.

Works Cited
Catholic Modesty. Web. 29 May 2010. .

Hammond, Colleen. Dressing with Dignity. Rockford, IL: Tan and, 2005. Print.

"Modesty Teen Bible Study Discussion Guides." United Church of God, an International Association - Preaching the Gospel of Jesus Christ and the Kingdom of God. 1999-2008. Web. 30 May 2010. .